It hurts to heal
It pains to see people go. Goodbyes hurt most when you do not get to say them. However, I think, what hurts most is to trust and be cheated.
Why would people cheat? When someone asked me this recently with choked voice and weepy eyes, I did not reply then. Actually cheating is pure definition of someone not behaving the way one should have. Days in and days out, it happens to most of us.
Life plays a game of expectations to keep human race going. If there were no expectations, there could not have been possibilities either. Some break ups are permanent damage. Therefore, someone moving on from a serious relationship may not signify a new beginning always. Someone having tear soaked, painful break up from close relationship may not amend the cracks in crystal vase ever.
“What would have happened if I were not vulnerable? Have I been emotional fool?” I heard it many times in silence recently. How could one prevent oneself from loving someone? How could you not be emotional to your own heart and people who live in that cozy corner?
We all are vulnerable to love and then to let go. Nevertheless, it is worth loving and let go hundred times then to close your heart and not let it brighten from power of giving. It pains, it hurts and it proves that you are alive. May not be for a new beginning but for own strength of being able to give and breathe afresh.
For all those who have loved and lost, with a silent prayer that you must find your own strength. It is within you just the way once love was.
March 4th, 2010 at 2:25 am
i read this twice and possibly wd do a couple of times more…both times i went a little nostalgic nd was trying to relate to some known incidences..yes v r all vulnerable to love and in lies our own selfish interest to give a new meaning to our own lives..nd tat vulnerability do sometimes prove painful..The solution does not though lie in avoiding but then making a strong and ‘decent’ attempt to turn love in our favour; or else still both the life and love should go on..I join u to pray.
March 4th, 2010 at 7:29 am
Thanks Boss. you are a real motivator. If everyone understands that its worth o love and let go then never to love, m sure healing would be faster.
March 4th, 2010 at 7:35 am
Akhon me nami hai aur dil bhi udaas hai..aaj fir uski yaad mere paas hai, kabhi kahin woh dikh jaye,ab bhi yeh aas hai, bujhti nahi itne sare aansuo se,yeh kaisi pyaas hai.. Rama this is dedicated to you,someone who writes from her heart and touches deepest core of mine.
March 4th, 2010 at 7:49 am
kabhi palko pe aansu hai. kabhi lab par shikayat hai, magar aee jindagi,fir bhi mujhe tujhse mohabbat hai…
Vivek,thanks for dedicating. I am not good at all this but sure good at understanding it and also know what kind of people write poetry.:)
March 4th, 2010 at 8:53 am
bina talab ke mohabbat ki nahi jaati ; yuhin chan lamhon mein zindagi ji nahi jaati ; ishq karna to dilwaalo ka pesha hai ; dildaaro ko iski ittalla di nahi jaati !
March 4th, 2010 at 11:50 pm
Hey Rama, you should write a book on relationships. I am yet to meet aperson with so deep understanding of humans. and if I may ask..have you seen too much pain yourself ? It all looks like you suffered it. No offences
March 4th, 2010 at 11:57 pm
Wah wah Boss wah wah, yeh apke liye,” Chand lamhe ishq ke, jindagi bana dete hain,ham jaise dewane bina dekhe kisi ko apni chaahat jata dete hai, woh bhi samjhte nahi khudaya raham, Unke aansu ham daaman mein samaye jaate hain.”
March 5th, 2010 at 2:05 am
hum ishq ki nilaami kiya nahi karte ; mohabbat ka imtihaan hum liya nahi karte ; ek raaz ki baat gaur farmaiyye shri.vivekji ; hum chaahne valo ko apna pata hi diya nahi karte !
March 5th, 2010 at 4:34 am
It hurts because we want things our way, situations, behaviour, expectations & when things dont go our way, IT HURTS
You dont need to prevent yourself from love nor pain yourself.
Its about choosing giving love or not being emotional fool.
March 5th, 2010 at 4:36 am
Kabhi kisi ko mukammal jahan nahi milta
Kahin zami to kahin aasmaa nahi milta
Jise bhi dekhiye wo apne aap mein gum hai
Zubaa mili hai magar hum zubaa nahi milta
Bujhaa saka hai bhala kaun waqt ke shole
Ye aisi aag hai jisme dhunaa nahi milta
Tere jahaan mein aisa nahi ke pyaar na ho
Jahaa ummeed ho iski wahaan nahi milta