Relationship Management.
I could write about strategic relationship management much better. After all, a client vendor kind of relationship never has much complication. But whats the fun writing about something you can buy a book and read. So, I would rather write about basics of any relation. I think its mutual respect that determines quality of life.
I am glad; life does not come with a service manual. Relationships do not have warranty cards. I recently have been part of friend’s life who is reeling under pain of leaving home after his father asked him to. It is difficult for father to give away the business to new generation son who is well informed in client servicing and a tech junkie. Therefore, ideally I should be sad about my friend is suffering. Contrary to that, I am feeling good. He will grow as independent human being now. The identity crisis he is facing today will settle down in a while. The birth of Phoenix proves that its important to face fire to have a new life.
Life teaches only hard ways. I have been a student of that way always and have learnt to be what I am today. My comfort with my own self has come from being alone and managing life my ways. I learnt that success is relative term. I learnt that no matter how discomforting it is, I would always have people who can read me as a book despite hardly knowing me. I learnt that all relations have their share of pain and pleasure. That despite I am not a caring person, I have people who care for me immensely. That my brother can get my mindset from a simple “hello” on phone and it surprises as much as it did ten years ago.
Though not everything what happens may be comforting that time but I believe, ultimately we get what we deserve and not what we desire.The good part is life moves on and that is what makes it worth living. So what if sometime the wine glass has tear drops in it.
February 26th, 2010 at 12:41 pm
Therz nothing beyond affirming to each and every word written that i have to quote this time. As long as an individual understands that life is not always about party and pleasures, but also pain and despair, gives him power to control circumstances. Your good friend i believe wd certainly overcome his present much boldly than he wd himself think. Those close to heart irrespective of any grudges, can’t dissociate.Your bro confirms this beautifully. And remember, wine on a dark evening over good country music even with a drop of tear makes a fantastic cocktail..God bless.
February 27th, 2010 at 12:04 am
As you said, the good part is, the time gone never comes back. I am glad to know that you have such a caring & understanding bro. A very rare bond people share these days
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For your Friend, God Bless him, i think its not just between a father & a son, its about the gap in there thoughts. Its about not updating yourself nor appreciating the other one & when it comes to power or giving the control no one wants to do. No one would like to live life on someone else’s term.
I too wish that he grows & gets what he deserves.
March 3rd, 2010 at 11:20 pm
Hi Rama, lovely to read about your and your bro’s relationship. I know how it is. I lost my bro in Cargil war and we had same relation. His last call was from front and I knew I will never hear him again. My mother read your blog and cried so much. hope you and your bro gets best of life and luck.