Woman are from Venus..On a swing though.
I grew up as an individualistic person. So, if anyone around me had mood swings I could not care less. It started changing when I met AB. Widow,Issue less woman she gave everyone a piece of her bad mood. Fights on trivial issues and shouting on petty things are her nature. Her male subordinates laughs at her back and uses her emotionally. I started digging in “Converging Issues”- root cause. Her being alone and working under her influential brother made her a person,who was continuously trying to make an impression. The mood swings were manifestation of authority .
Next assignment I met Manjulika. Married to a General Manager of MNC, she has a great career herself. A lovely child and happy family portrait stops here. Starved, snubby and authoritative, Manju was difficult to predict. Her male sub actually bet on her mood for the day. The word is PMV in office.Present Market value of peers. It will depend on how her mood will be that day. Here again, I thought for a reason.
Then I understood why..Woman are on a spree of living life for someone else. “Masochism” is causing pain to self. First sip of Gripe Water is gulped down with that learning. They try being a superwoman. nothing less than best will do. So, if someone is living life to find happiness through others, they need to be appreciated. Lack of appreciation kills joy of giving ( if any) and generates anger. Hence the swing most of times. Though menopausal swings are not part of this.
Be it authority,proving self or fighting strength trials , some imperfection and less than best does not kill. If they did, I would have been dead long ago.
December 22nd, 2009 at 4:13 am
Firstly, tx for the write up. (That’s the difference when a psycho master writes
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Who else but a woman can describe these moments better? (therz some pun deliberately intended there). I wonder sometimes (out of experiences), should they be rephrased as “mood swivels”!
AB and Manjulika are perfect examples to have quoted. Rather Manjulika gives another school of thought i.e.Female bosses. Though mood swings are very common with both genders, I feel over a period of time, males tend to control them better…wat say? i.e. whether menopause or no; men learn faster when to pause
Also does masochism or sadism bring attention.? .And even if they do, how long?
December 23rd, 2009 at 2:35 am
I am yet to understand why women needs to live life in which they have to find happiness through others. I am sure this does not apply to all women especially in today’s world. And if this is the case it can happen to men also. It may be his influential father or brother. We can not generalize it for women. But yes they are much more complex creatures than man that we all have to agree
December 29th, 2009 at 1:49 am
Hi Rama
It is quite understood that you would be able to understand (and relate to) the female side of the story and would have only a second hand experience of what a male would go through, based on narrations.
All said and done, our experiences are based on what we go through personally and what we interpret of what some one else narrates.
Why do you think males do not need appreciation from others? or they do not have any need to find happiness through others. The ones who do not have this need, have already gone to the himalayas. So, the remaining ones DO NEED to find THEIR meaning of life through THEIR surroundings only.
The fact that men generally do not accept this, is a different discussion, though.
I would rather accept that we see only one side of the coin, because we are sitting on that side.