Self Esteem
I turn up getting three requests a day bare minimum for therapeutic counselling.Higher the ladder people climb,lower the self esteem goes. Ideally it should have been other way round.Number of factors contribute to it. The foremost is lack of trust in oneself. Most people believe,what they have got is because of good luck . Not because they deserve it.
What most executives do not find themselves comfortable is doing a bit of self analysis and and attach a value to it. Not many are comfortable defining self . Disliking oneself deteriorates the process further.
Recently,a corporate honcho was brought to me(Since he did not come on his own) for his succession planning. A very simple question was” What do you like about yourself?” He responded,” I am good in my work but I am bad at Computer. Actually am not a marketing person. I wanted to go to IIM but had many responsibilities..” .
It could have gone on but I stopped him. ” What do you like about yourself?” I repeated. He fumbled. ” That’s what I am answering to you. Isn’t it?” Most people judge and reject themselves because they do not match someone else’s criteria. Personally , I suggest, listen to your inner self. If you are good,you are. Professionally, if you do not find yourself being appreciated or not up to mark in the job you have,sit down and write all that is good about you without adding the word,”But”. May be you need to talk to your senior about your profile change or need a job change. Restructuring helps. “Change is inevitable, growth is optional’”
December 8th, 2009 at 9:13 am
i luv this post..more so because as trainers v in and out get to talk abt this to our audience..well that wat u asked this chap is the introspection one needs..unfortunately great readers dont turn out to be great doers! hope these thoughts deep sink into many and a postive self appraisal becomes a key to build up a positive self esteem..gud one
December 8th, 2009 at 9:48 am
if you are working in private sector – you better leave that home..
if you are working in govt… you would not have any – anyways !
December 8th, 2009 at 6:00 pm
Hi Sahil, why do you feel so?
December 9th, 2009 at 1:36 am
Hello Rama… glad you because curious…
all (current) hierarchical systems are programmed to kill the self esteem of the individual and work towards the collective esteem of the organization !
If an individual does have a self esteem, (s)he must surrender to the larger good and let go of his/her ego so that the group as a whole can proceed as per organizational goals. one must lose oneself so that the group – the department – the state – the ministry – the nation can win…..
i believe this is what i have heard since time immemorial.
well – no one thought that the collective sum of zeros will always be a zero. but that is besides the point.
December 9th, 2009 at 6:18 am
A great post. A topic really needs to be discussed. I totally agree with you on the point that people believe in luck & not in hardwork.
We should understand that, we only get what we desire & deserve.
December 9th, 2009 at 8:39 am
i certainly do not intend to contradict mr.sahil’s thoughts. but it appears he has mistaken self esteem to self interest.
By no means, should there be a “necessity” to lower one’s self esteem if u r working in the organization’s interest.
On the contrary, i would submit that it’s self belief that makes one more committed towards the organizational goals.
wats rama’s view?
December 10th, 2009 at 2:07 am
i meant – glad you got** curious…
December 19th, 2009 at 1:19 am
Hi,
I am Kamal Modi, I am planning for some training intiativs at surat. can i have your contacts.
December 21st, 2009 at 9:04 am
Hi Kamal..you can contact me ramamoondra@gmail.com