Gloriously Unfaithful
Thirty five phone calls and ten sms’s were what I received on my last blog. So, here I am continuing to write on the same topic(though fuelled by readers reactions and demand). One strange call was of Rahul Jain, a businessman from Mumbai who took pains to find my number to call me and asked the most difficult question.”What is your opinion on men? Do you come across some polygamists and passes makers as a globe trotter and professional? Can you write some of your experiences? ”
For once, I was speechless. I have known men in various forms and no qualms in admitting that I get along better with men in thinking pattern. But today I would share an incident which shook my nerves too( I consider mine of steel 
. A woman GM of a good organisation once asked me out for a drink in Bangalore. Over a glass of wine,she told me that she has invited someone. A little later, Mr x joined in. The conversation flew through and soon we were chatting our way on Indian politics, corporate working and so on. After a while,the gentleman asked us to get to his room for dinner. I politely refused saying I was getting late and got up. He held my hand,” You seriously want to go? Why would you have a drink with a man if you don’t want to walk up to his room?” It took me two minutes to reconcile to the fact. My host was holding his waist looking at me. “We have misjudged each other” I said as calmly as I possibly could and left. I walked my way back to my hotel stunned. Does sharing a drink with someone means an invitation?
Next day I took the lady hands on.. She was unruffled at all.” How would I leave my home without you? My hubby? and I thought you are a single, so..” I left that assignment soon after that but this was my first experience of witnessing polyandry/polygamy in such a way. Back home,I made a case study of this incident and gave it to my participants of “Behavioral Therapy” .Maximum people felt,it was perfectly fine to get in to such practice so far it was not known to respective partners.
For my savvy readers..
December 6th, 2009 at 8:03 am
People think everything is fine & accepted when they want it.
It feels really bad when you come to know that the person whom you thought was a friend is no good then an animal.
December 6th, 2009 at 11:08 pm
I am equally stunned at the audacity of people in disrespecting the relationship they have but I guess that’s the way it is. All these thousands of years of curbs and religious teachings of having a monogamy have not been able to change “genetic unfaithfulness” of humankind.
But I have learned one thing today, think before going for a drink with some corporate honcho especially if that honcho is a lady
December 6th, 2009 at 11:47 pm
How many of the 35 “eye brow raisers” were males?
…that itself is a partly submission..Your friend has a valid query but which should not have a much surprising answer, since such experiences would be quite an often thing.
It would be unwise to quote polygamy / polyandry as a stigma today. Isnt this an age of ‘Ageless Body’..There’s no surprise why the participants opined for it.
Your business card should perhaps carry some extra details…something like your green belt qualification?, …the drinks and conversation should have ended in a more interesting manner
As of now, the savvy readers are also logged on to some drinking etiquettes
December 7th, 2009 at 2:28 am
Hi Abhishek,precisely thats what I wanted not to communicate:).Drinking with someone does not necessarily mean Invitation,though now I am very choosy about picking an invite’
December 7th, 2009 at 2:30 am
Hi Boss, It could have ended intersting if I behaved:). I dont have any colour belt so leaving quietly was only option. Learning drinking etiquette from you will be fun though..
December 7th, 2009 at 6:05 am
Its all about how a man balances his relationship with his friend(girl) and his wife. Atleast for ME, a man should be/ has to be loyal towards his woman(wife). A MAN can be a good manager or a successful businessman but to be a “One Woman’s Man” is what a MAN is all about !!!
December 7th, 2009 at 6:09 am
honesty is not always the best policy..should not have disclosed that u dont own a belt
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December 7th, 2009 at 9:40 am
Hey Krunal,good to see your comment. Though I personally have known lots of men who dont think your way.
December 7th, 2009 at 9:22 pm
Rama… for once, i fail to understand the basic premise.
Is it about being FAITHful – or is it about choices?
the two ladies had their choices, and exercised them with full knowledge of what they were doing.
if you are talking about perception – both carried a wrong perception of the other. so it should balance out.
SO? what is the discussion point… i think i missed it completely… or is it a trick question – aka – the engine stalling one ???
December 7th, 2009 at 9:43 pm
Rama, I have always appreciated your courage in facing such unhealthy situations, and your role in this entire episode is another feather in your cap.
I fail to understand the recent ongoing morality quotient in the corporate world, where flesh is always dominating……..anything else. The gentleman (very hard to use this word for that person, but this is a public diaspora) is SICK…….simply SICK.