Geneticaly Unfaithful
To Special five men whose opinion matters.
Ritesh, Anil, Abhishek, Manish and Ashish, thanks for shaping my opinions always about everythin and Men too..:)
Nick Pye is a special person. Not only because he is avid lover of India and visits from Italy every year,but also that he is my scuba coach in Australia. He generated love for adventure sports in me and became a very caring friend. He missed a beat in my first sky jump (he told me later though).
So when he made it a point to meet me in Locarno, very close to Italy, I jumped out of happiness. That night we sat over my favourite Zindalfel ,discussing everything under the sun. Shaneen,his recent girlfriend is hungarian. Whenever I meet Nick,its a new girl every year.” How come you cant continue with one? You claim to be in love evrytime” I asked laughing on his last girlfrnd’s foto’s(torn and thrown). ” Well, a man’s heart is too big for one single woman. We dont believe loyalty comes from having slept with only one person all your life”.
I kind of understand it. Luck or whatever,I work mostly with men . Once back,I picked this topic again with Ratnam and Samir,two great business associates in Mumbai. ” Why associate loyalty with physical relationship?” Ratnam asked me. I kept quiet waiting for Samir.” Ok..Listen,let me admit,Men are genetically unfaithfull.Its not possible for them to love a single woman or atleast remain physical only with one all their life. And we are good at covering up for each other” He winked.
Though the discussion went on too long on both nights in both countries,one thing I am sure, Men think alike on lots of issues despite colour of their skin or nationality.
November 25th, 2009 at 9:32 pm
Five person’s opinion matters to you……..all MEN……opinion on loyalty and stuff…..and still you are waiting for your comment column to be flooded…..ha ha ha, and i thought u have some smarts.
November 25th, 2009 at 10:32 pm
Well I recently discussed this topic with my wife and friends. I told them what I believe. According to me human kind is biologically polygamist. After all we are animals and I don’t know any animal who is not a polygamist. Yes we have created society, religions, relationships etc etc and we have evolved for all thousands of years to stay away from polygamy. Some logic has been applied initially when societies started to form etc and it has been refined over the period of time. About the statement “Why associate loyalty with physical relationship?”, well it is very debatable and I have a wife who will be reading this at some point of time, so I better not comment anything here
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By the way great post on great topic rama, I must say your blog is evolving.
As I said just keep doing this consistently and you are going to have large following.
November 25th, 2009 at 11:18 pm
Thanks a ton Abhishek, I agree with animal instinct. True. Thanks for motivating always.
Rama
November 26th, 2009 at 1:13 am
well well well!
i gave a second thought on ur writeup (dont worry, this time on a serious note)and now i should say, that every human being has shades of personalities and character. no one is or can be compartmentalized to be 100% of one personality, and in this multiplicity, at some point of time in his/her life experiences the dilution of monogamistic character, and it is inevitable. Yes i mentioned “his/her” ……..
November 26th, 2009 at 3:01 am
Who says it is Men who are genetically unfaithful ??? i find the whole topic to be a non issue, to start with
one cannot correlate faithfulness into any gender. May be males are more forthright and blabber out (with some extra spice too) while women are more guarded on this subject. and that is the only difference.
yes – you can have a societal differences here. may be in an Indian society you would find more men who are willing to confess their polygamous thoughts while most women would rather hide their polyandrous ones.
Moreover, what is faith. faith is something in the mind. Who has heard of being faithful to the cook. hunger is a physical need, but still we cannot think of staying faithful to a single cook through out our lives. nor take a fast-till-death once that cook goes. why is any other physical need different.
these views are pertinent till we view sex as a mere physical thing only. For those who view sex as physical only – you may stop here.
once we are able to identify that there is a difference in sleeping with anyone and sleeping with someone – game is different; entirely.
and the difference is actually beyond words.
November 26th, 2009 at 9:05 pm
oops – got late to comment so have a lot of spice now – ironically saying and putting things in practice – completely different -
Glorious unfaithfuls – another caption i think for this post – getting on bits from the same discussion the other day – its so easy for men to get into directional thinking and justify something – and the audacity with which they glorify their deeds – phenominal
Trust – something which is again situational for our specie – Hypocracy – changes with person to person – Loyalty – all good till you get an opportunity – Image management – ask your wife !!
Would love to continue with some more, but i guess ill take some years – to build on, on this..!!
November 26th, 2009 at 10:57 pm
It took a while for me to gather some thoughts on this post and hence my submission has taken more time than usual. The 5th man contributes.
It isn’t a question of polygamy as been emphasized. Neither it’s a difference of culture. It ‘s purely a choice. And choice has some constraints which are expressed as an element of fear. Fear of losing on something close or a fear of rules.
Nick is neither lucky nor unfaithful. In absolute pungent vocabulary ( kindly forgive), Nick has balls not just to show but that he uses too. It is worthwhile thinking (keeping aside some male chauvinism), how many of stronger sex in absence of fear would really be able to resist the temptations. Before I ask this question, I admit, I really don’t know if I can.
Rama, this post is must to be preserved. Not right here on WordPress but into the male matter. Sometime somewhere deeply, it has a chance for endorsement.
I am happy for Nick. Lucky chap who gets a girlfriend knowingly what kind of guy he is. That’s enough to state that I am not a hardcore feminist either
I am delighted to hear I have influenced through comments. You know well, these are some senescing thoughts !
But for now, Nick Pye is Dick Guy..;-)
Amen.
November 27th, 2009 at 2:14 am
i was trying to read statistics and probability – and it just occurred to me that statistically it would be impossible to have polygamy without also having polyandry !
could the other gentlemen give their views!
November 27th, 2009 at 9:38 pm
Hi..great to have so many comments and some of them are really my thoughts. I have always believed women stray as much since the partner is male. Anil, it realy demands courage to admit vulnerability to temptations.kudos.Manish has some point which is going to be next base of blog.
Thanks buddies.
December 5th, 2009 at 1:55 am
I read these some where,
“There is no dearth of women to sleep with. The challenge is to find the one you want to wake up with…”
December 6th, 2009 at 5:49 am
Hi Mitesh, great to see your comment. I think its equally difficult to wake up to same person with same intensity all your life.
December 6th, 2009 at 7:36 am
I guess that’s the reason people get married!